PRABHU P
04 December 2008, 09:45 AM
MARRRIAGE AN ART OF SUBLIMATION
Marriage is not just a system it is an art by which men or women can gradually sublimate their lower instincts to a higher plane. The Hindu Dharma guides persons to graduate from Brahmachari to Sanyasa through a safe passage of Gruhastha dharma. The problem of the present days are not because of the Dharma but it is because of the wrong way in which it is practised. It is a safety valve to let out the pressure off in a very dignified manner and without any bad consquences attached to other methods. It can be relished if we can enjoy the fruits of it over a long period of time instead of spending it in haste. The other methods may probably lead us back to the barbaric stone age.
The Indian culture built this system with a lot of foresightedness. Some people argue why we need culture at all. I don’t know in what perspective the word is used by them. The dictionary meaning is a developed understanding of literature,art, music,etc. ; the art customs etc. of a particular country or society. But in the Indian context what we mean is the customs which was professed and practiced to the emancipation of the society by our seers and fore fathers. Whether the culture which is going to emancipate the whole society need to be discarded ?. No, it is only to be adapted in a best manner to the present world.
Early marriage may aovid many of the misunderstandings that occurs in the system of marriage. There may be mismatch in many cases but an early marriage brings with it the love, affection and friendship which will help the couple to over come other mismatches. What ever may be the differences that will not become an irritant in their life. They can be compromised for the love, affection and friendship shared among them. The thread will be further strengthened by the blossoming of their offsprings.
Marriage is not just a system it is an art by which men or women can gradually sublimate their lower instincts to a higher plane. The Hindu Dharma guides persons to graduate from Brahmachari to Sanyasa through a safe passage of Gruhastha dharma. The problem of the present days are not because of the Dharma but it is because of the wrong way in which it is practised. It is a safety valve to let out the pressure off in a very dignified manner and without any bad consquences attached to other methods. It can be relished if we can enjoy the fruits of it over a long period of time instead of spending it in haste. The other methods may probably lead us back to the barbaric stone age.
The Indian culture built this system with a lot of foresightedness. Some people argue why we need culture at all. I don’t know in what perspective the word is used by them. The dictionary meaning is a developed understanding of literature,art, music,etc. ; the art customs etc. of a particular country or society. But in the Indian context what we mean is the customs which was professed and practiced to the emancipation of the society by our seers and fore fathers. Whether the culture which is going to emancipate the whole society need to be discarded ?. No, it is only to be adapted in a best manner to the present world.
Early marriage may aovid many of the misunderstandings that occurs in the system of marriage. There may be mismatch in many cases but an early marriage brings with it the love, affection and friendship which will help the couple to over come other mismatches. What ever may be the differences that will not become an irritant in their life. They can be compromised for the love, affection and friendship shared among them. The thread will be further strengthened by the blossoming of their offsprings.