Eastern Mind
26 June 2010, 05:57 PM
Vannakkam:
http://veda.wikidot.com/yama-niyama
NIYAMA 1 — Hri, Remorse
"Allow yourself the expression of remorse, being modest and showing shame for misdeeds. Recognize your errors, confess and make amends. Sincerely apologize to those hurt by your words or deeds. Resolve all contention before sleep. Seek out and correct your faults and bad habits. Welcome correction as a means to bettering yourself. Do not boast. Shun pride and pretension."
It is one thing to error, yet quite another to confess to it, admit it, make up for it, etc. My worst trait for hurting others is my overzealous sarcastic wit. There have been several times in my life where I've had to go to friends and apologise for my mouth. Overactive teasing mode. Yet if I were to restrain it, I would come across a some serious buffoon.
The other night at the temple it happened. A 9 yr. old girl was mashing her papadam into the rice and curry, and I was going on with the "Nobody eats papadam like that. What did your mother teach you?" (Her mother was sitting right there, so it was even more fun.) But I inadvertent,y crossed the line when I asked the mother if HER mother taught her stuff like that. Then I discovered that she didn't have a mother as her mother had passed away when she was young. So all the fun sort of came to an abrupt halt. So I had to apologise for hurt feelings later.
Aum Namasivaya
http://veda.wikidot.com/yama-niyama
NIYAMA 1 — Hri, Remorse
"Allow yourself the expression of remorse, being modest and showing shame for misdeeds. Recognize your errors, confess and make amends. Sincerely apologize to those hurt by your words or deeds. Resolve all contention before sleep. Seek out and correct your faults and bad habits. Welcome correction as a means to bettering yourself. Do not boast. Shun pride and pretension."
It is one thing to error, yet quite another to confess to it, admit it, make up for it, etc. My worst trait for hurting others is my overzealous sarcastic wit. There have been several times in my life where I've had to go to friends and apologise for my mouth. Overactive teasing mode. Yet if I were to restrain it, I would come across a some serious buffoon.
The other night at the temple it happened. A 9 yr. old girl was mashing her papadam into the rice and curry, and I was going on with the "Nobody eats papadam like that. What did your mother teach you?" (Her mother was sitting right there, so it was even more fun.) But I inadvertent,y crossed the line when I asked the mother if HER mother taught her stuff like that. Then I discovered that she didn't have a mother as her mother had passed away when she was young. So all the fun sort of came to an abrupt halt. So I had to apologise for hurt feelings later.
Aum Namasivaya