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Ananda
11 September 2011, 03:02 PM
Hello folks,


Now, I'm sure you're all aware of the deviancy and illiteracy of Zakir Naik, but I wish to bring to your attention this despicable display of his in which he hires an imposter to pretend to be a shankaracharya of puri math going by the name 'Jagadguru Shankaracharya Devanand Saraswati '. This 'Shankaracharya' proceeds to give a glowing review of Islam, and saying that critics of Islam are "servants of satan, not of God". See here;


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fzt80IvQigU&NR=1


Please also see here for more information on this horrible performance;



http://hinduismcalls.blogspot.com/2009/08/drzakir-naik-exposed-series-1.html


He goes on to say that Islam and Hinduism should be considered as one and the same, and that Islam is true, and that the message of both are one and the same. He even says that 'Sanatana should mean in english ISLAM'.

More info about this imposter hired by Naik here;


http://www.freewebs.com/aryabharat/fakeshankaracharya.htm



Any thoughts on this horrid display by a Muslim who seeks to propagate his religion through deception and fraudulent scholarship?

R Gitananda
12 September 2011, 01:42 AM
Namaste

Sanatana Dharma has been under attack
from all sides for quite some time.
This is just another example of it.

Aum Shanti

wundermonk
12 September 2011, 01:56 AM
Zakir Naik is stupid. Many ex-Muslims have made videos refuting a variety of his talks about miracles in the Quran. A fellow Indian Muslim put a case on him saying that he is aiding terrorism because he wouldnt condemn Osama Bin Laden. He is barred from entering a variety of countries around the world.

Actually, he does a useful job - that of exposing the superficiality of Islam. Thats it.

Spiritualseeker
12 September 2011, 08:33 AM
Namaste,

Zakir Naik is a attention seeker. You can tell by the way he speaks when he starts trying to fire off many different Quranic verses. I notice that a lot of times he only references where to look up certain things instead of reading it in Arabic (something that he has difficult with his tongue). He even has problems within the muslim community not liking him because of his deviancy to certain aspects of Islam. Islam will not bring him happiness. He is trying to feel the void in his life by acting like an important teacher. But why would a Muslim go to Zakir Naik? If i converted back to Islam I certainly would not. He is not an Alim (Scholar). He is just a da'ee (caller and a sucky one at that).

Om Namah Shivaya

charitra
12 September 2011, 10:15 AM
@Spiritualseeker,
Are you a former muslim? Give us your story if you dont mind. Namaste.


Namaste,

Zakir Naik is a attention seeker. You can tell by the way he speaks when he starts trying to fire off many different Quranic verses. I notice that a lot of times he only references where to look up certain things instead of reading it in Arabic (something that he has difficult with his tongue). He even has problems within the muslim community not liking him because of his deviancy to certain aspects of Islam. Islam will not bring him happiness. He is trying to feel the void in his life by acting like an important teacher. But why would a Muslim go to Zakir Naik? If i converted back to Islam I certainly would not. He is not an Alim (Scholar). He is just a da'ee (caller and a sucky one at that).

Om Namah Shivaya

Spiritualseeker
12 September 2011, 07:13 PM
Namaste,

Yes I am a former muslim. I do not think my story is very interesting as most would probably just see a confused person. But I was raised in a christian family, though christianity was never really formally practiced. It was simply the adoption of Jesus as the Son of God who died for our sins. It was nothing more than that. When I was a teenager around 14 or so I started reading into christianity mainly from the bible and listening to christian lectures. I explored some of other teachings and learned a bit about Islam. I thought that they were demonized out of error. I started to read the Qur'an and started to view Islamic Monotheism in a better light. I thought maybe this was the 'pure monotheism' that mankind was raised upon. I thought worship of Jesus would not really bring to heaven and that God would want me to worship him directly without an intermediary even if it is claimed to be God's incarnate.

I adopted Islam and followed it strongly for about 7 years. I really did all my five daily prayers, learned a bit of arabic to recite Quran and read prayers. I went to the masjid. I got into a bit of fundamentalism when i read deeper into the religion through the Qur'an and the hadith. I looked for authentic ahadeeth (narrations of the prophet) that were accepted by major scholars. What I pieced together is that many of the Jihadis are right in terms of Jihad being obligatory. Jihad is fard ayn (compulsory) if muslim lands have been occupied and under threat. It is fard kifaya (only compulsory upon a certain amount of muslims when there is a ruler over muslims that is not being harmed by invasion). I learned that the Prophet allowed mutilation in retaliation to mutilations. I learned also that the prophet allowed raiding of merchants (basically businessmen and women who were not warriors). Along with many other ahadeeth I was able to realize that Muhammad allowed and justified killing of the disbelievers after the verses of Jihad came down. At first the verses were defensive and then when the muslims got the upper hand it became part of the religion for offensive jihad. This means that if there is a ruler over the muslims and rules by shariah then that nation needs to either be making jihad to make the name of God uppermost or at least preparing.

So I really found that many jihadees in many parts of the world were right in their jihadi fundamentalism.

After much practice of Islam i found that there was still something that needed to be filled. There was still not satisfaction in the practice of trying to live up to God from Islamic precepts and Aqeedah (creed). I would wander off and read books by Thich Nhat Hanh by this point and feel guilty about it. I felt like I was doing something wrong by learning about mindfulness, Buddha, and meditation. I even began practicing mindfulness meditation and doing mindful activities from the works of Thich Nhat Hanh. What eventually happened is that I started to see the flaws and non-right views of Islam. It was not bringing me happiness. The only thing that caused me to be in it for so long is I thought there were scientific miracles that muslims claim is in the Qur'an. This is really not the case, but I could not help the stupidity I had back then. I eventually started to see that Jihad is awful. That religion from Christianity to Islam has been very primitive. I eventually told my wife who had also converted to Islam how i was feeling. I read my fiqh (jurisprudence) books and marriage books that instructed that it was okay to 'lightly' beat your wife. I shared these with my wife and my doubts and we somehow let go of Islam. Then I continue to learn about mindfulness, meditation, Buddhism, and Sanatana Dharma. Here I am now. Not knowing what to call myself or what beliefs I have. I just find that the Dharma is ringing true and it is something we can actually taste instead of waiting for Paradise on the other side.

Not an exciting story, but I am very grateful that I have left Islam. I sometimes think negatively of those times, but my wife tells me everything happens for a reason.

yajvan
12 September 2011, 07:54 PM
hariḥ oṁ
~~~~~~

namasté
spiritualseeker writes,



There was still not satisfaction in the practice of trying to live up to God from Islamic precepts and Aqeedah (creed).

You have gone through many ~filters~.

I am impressed with your openness as it emits a level of humility and intelligence. The intelligence to know something is just not right and to move to a higher ground.

praṇām

Spiritualseeker
12 September 2011, 08:35 PM
Namaste,

Thank you Yajvan for your kind words.

Om

R Gitananda
12 September 2011, 10:21 PM
Namaste

I would like to point out that from my perspective there is no authority that can issue religious opinions about Sanatana Dharma
that are binding upon all Hindus. Therefore even if this man was a "jagadguru" - his opinions (unlike a fatwa issued by Ali Khamenei in Iran)
would only have weight with his disciples, followers and whoever else wants to honor his teachings. Hindus always have the freedom to accept
or reject according to their internal convictions. There is a quote from Vasishta Yoga but I am not sure if I remember it exactly:

"If someone says something which comports with reason, you must accept it, even if it is a child. If however
someone says something which does not comport with reason, you must reject it - even if it is Brahma himself!"

Aum Shanti

sm78
13 September 2011, 03:24 AM
Not an exciting story, but I am very grateful that I have left Islam. I sometimes think negatively of those times, but my wife tells me everything happens for a reason.

On contrary its quite an extraordinary story. However, with all due respect to you and your journey through the maze of faiths and doctrines to find meaning and God – your story also reflects the fundamental contradiction and reason why it happens, i.e Man’s search for truth outside, in an external institution, faith or religion.
The truth or meaning can only be found inside and not in books or teachers or mosques or even temples. Till one realizes this, it’s going to be confusing and difficult road.
I believe having the courage to stay away from religion and rather accept the vacuum as an atheist and agnostic is many times better, courageous more human solution than knocking on the doors of world religions. Such people are more advanced people than religious persons as they are already able to find happiness within themselves.
Bottom line, we should only encourage people to find meaning in themselves, free and independently from external institutions – particularly those created in the lowest points of human intellectual achievements, by people who had no credential other than being able to organize masses into frenzy and who were mostly illiterate and uneducated people of their time.

wundermonk
13 September 2011, 03:48 AM
I believe having the courage to stay away from religion and rather accept the vacuum as an atheist and agnostic is many times better, courageous more human solution than knocking on the doors of world religions. Such people are more advanced people than religious persons as they are already able to find happiness within themselves.

I have to differ with you here. Do you have any evidence to suggest that atheists/agnostics are "more advanced" and are more "able to find happiness within themselves" than theists? Could you suitably define these phrases?

Dvaitins/Visishtadvaitins consider Advaitins atheists. All of the former consider Samkhya atheist. All of the former consider Buddhism to be atheist. All of the former consider Charvakas to be atheists. So, if you could, also define the term "atheism" and which "atheist" you are referring to.

devotee
13 September 2011, 04:15 AM
Not an exciting story, but I am very grateful that I have left Islam. I sometimes think negatively of those times, but my wife tells me everything happens for a reason.

Dear SS,

It surprises me that you are able to leave Islam. Muslims don't allow any person to leave their faith. The punishment can even be death and it is permitted in Q'uran if I am not wrong!

You have had a great and exciting journey and many people can learn from your experience.

Namaste SM78,

Have patience and not be judgmental on virtues of atheism and defects in theism. You still have a long way to go to realise what spirituality has in store for you.

The best and commendable part is that you are thirsty for the Truth and it is auspicious. Have a little patience and Truth will slowly uncover its veil for you, I am sure.

OM

Spiritualseeker
13 September 2011, 06:09 AM
Namaste all,

Devotee thank you for your response. Apostasy is very grave in Islam as you mention the Qur'an does permit execution of apostates. If you want to hear what Muhammad has to say about it you could open Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih al-Muslim (Other hadith also contain this message) in which Apostasy is remedied with execution. Sometimes the apostate has 3 days to 'repent'. Surely if I lived in an Islamic state I might claim to be a born again Muslim before the end of the 3 days lol. I had friends become very angry over my leaving Islam. A particular Imam at a masjid was kind hearted. I feel that the reason he was laxed is because he has had problems in the past with his faith and his father was also a Sufi so he was less violently inclined. Still there are those that would love to harm over faith. I do not mention too much in person to people that I was muslim due to the fact that it could bring harm upon me. It is too bad really that a religion that is supposedly the highest truth is so afraid that it orders execution of apostates. This seems like just a religion of control and fear, much like the rulership of many dictators of the world (including the United States). May Lord Shiva liberate all of us from the bondage of thought.

Om Namah Shivaya

sm78
13 September 2011, 06:25 AM
I have to differ with you here. Do you have any evidence to suggest that atheists/agnostics are "more advanced" and are more "able to find happiness within themselves" than theists? Could you suitably define these phrases?

It is purely from my own assessment having met many people in this 30+ years of existence. But what proof do you need that is already not self evident? All the wars and violence in name of religion is as old as the time when men invented religion and still continues at the same untiring momentum. Old bigots get replaced with a new generation of God crazy people.

As I said, being able to be happy with oneself is by itself a great proof. Let me define happy by being able to lead normal, healthy and mentally fit life.Being unconcerned with religious truths shows great maturity in being able to come to terms with the world on one's own terms. I don't need any better proof for my convictions.

Ofcourse this excludes those people who have found another dogma (atheism) to take refuge in through denial of everything religious. Those people are in the same or worse boat than religionists in my mind. There cannot be too many non-dogmatic agnostics in my mind, and clearly they have to be much advanced than scores of devotion crazy crowd and their leaders.

But truely, I can't prove this to you or anybody who does not accept great harm being done since dawn of human history in name of religion. It is not good for me to only blame Abrahamic religions for all ills and put an spotless picture for all others, since the issue is in the very foundation of need for religion - which is a deep seated human phobia for the unknown.

And to note, my posts were not to pronounce a judgement on SpiritualSeeker and anybody else in this forum. Sorry if it came out such a way, but maybe it is unavoidable when I criticize religion in general and all most everybody here is religious in some sense.

However, I still keep defining myself as Hindu and post here because for me Hinduism offers plenty & plenty of options outside formalized religion and a strict religious life.

If one doesn't believe Truth to be a written word in an old book, but something to be experienced inside, I believe he/she is still a Hindu.

If one doesn't believe that "religious" duties are there because some God or saint wanted us to perform those tasks or incur wrath, but rather view these duties and rituals as tools to experience the inside, I think he/she still remians Hindu.

And if one believes that these rituals and processes remain open to be applied, evaluated and validated like any other scientific technology aliebit at an individual level, I think it still remains Hinduism.

sm78
13 September 2011, 06:50 AM
Namaste SM78,

Have patience and not be judgmental on virtues of atheism and defects in theism. You still have a long way to go to realise what spirituality has in store for you.

The best and commendable part is that you are thirsty for the Truth and it is auspicious. Have a little patience and Truth will slowly uncover its veil for you, I am sure.

OM

Thanks for your encouragement, but my concern is not about the fate of SM78, since it is highly immaterial for the world I am commenting on. My opposition is not on the outcome of formal religion to one own's salvation - but dangers to the society.

Individual salvaltion is actually completely immaterial topic compared to general wellbeing of humanity, yet it has occupied nearly 100% of the time and energy of Indian mystics for last 1000 years. A bit of a shame, if you ask me.

wundermonk
13 September 2011, 06:50 AM
@sm78:

I think the role of "religion" should just be twofold:

(1)philosophy, and
(2)spirituality.

Eastern "religions" [Hinduism, Taoism, Buddhism, etc.] score much higher on these fronts than Western religions.

I do agree that religion leads to bloodshed. But I am unsure if wholesale naturalism/scientism is the solution. A better solution would be to strictly enforce separation of church/mosque/temple/synagogue/gurudwara and state. Who cares what the citizens of a country believe as long as they can cooperate in the public sphere regardless of what the other members may or may not believe?

Hindu metaphysics and spirituality will endure. It is not without reason that books are still being written about Nyaya or Samkhya or Yoga or Advaita even today. To me, the 6 Hindu darshanas offer enough food for thought and contemplation for this life and possible a couple more [if I do not attain mukti this time around that is ;)] Reading the BG gives me a feeling of peace that is not intersubjectively verifiable but it is true to me nonetheless.

wundermonk
13 September 2011, 06:55 AM
Individual salvaltion is actually completely immaterial topic compared to general wellbeing of humanity, yet it has occupied nearly 100% of the time and energy of Indian mystics for last 1000 years. A bit of a shame, if you ask me.

Why do you automatically assume that individual salvation is at cross purposes with general wellbeing of humanity?

Despite a belief in reincarnation/karma, do you find Indians any worse off than Pakistanis/Bangladeshis [who share the same culture/language, etc.] who believe in just this one life?

Do you account for the material general wellbeing of the US/West/UK to their being non-mystical?

sm78
13 September 2011, 07:08 AM
Why do you automatically assume that individual salvation is at cross purposes with general wellbeing of humanity?

Despite a belief in reincarnation/karma, do you find Indians any worse off than Pakistanis/Bangladeshis [who share the same culture/language, etc.] who believe in just this one life?

It is not at cross purpose, but simply being one-sided and ignoring the larger picture. It has more to do with Hindu's being always ruled by other's and thus completely missing the aspect which comes with having to rule and ensure collective well being of the society. But the foundation was laid even before the actual situation arrived. Mahabharata is as much full advice on social well being as it is on individual liberation. The later is a specific subtopic within the former. This perspective went missing from our culture sometime in the past.


Do you account for the material general wellbeing of the US/West/UK to their being non-mystical?

No, its simply because they understand governance, social wellfare and overall state craft much better than us. Its clearly a lack of knowledge on our part. Nothing to do with materialism or spiritualism. The gap can be filled up more completely from taking a spiritual point of view...but the fact is we are not even aware of the short comings in our thoughts in this regard.

Mana
13 September 2011, 07:25 AM
Namasté sm78

Please excuse my speculation. I can"t help but wondering if your qualm is not with human nature its self? We can see as plain as day that theology has evolved along side human intelligence and wisdom its self. Theology which to my mind describes its very own nature from within, fully aware of the pitfalls, as it folds back on to its self repeatedly to propagate wisdom.

Have you seen this?

Is not the most dangerous belief on this planet today materialism? The unchecked selfish desires of the "Happy" top 5% consuming the very planet on which we live.

If Materialism continues to ride this wave of belief in its self, unchecked. There will be nothing left. Take a look towards Venus; there are many stable states possible for our planets surface in the future, not all of them include liquid water.

What else can relieve the wants and needs, of the 95% of this plant who suffer, for no reason other than geography. Do you think they care about holy war? Many have no water.

Happiness is an illusory state which, more often than not depends upon the suffering of others. Yoga thus balance, is the only way.

My sister is highly placed in the Western scientific community; from what I gather it mirrors exactly the human behaviour we see in organised Religion. Ask Hubble!

How many on this planet have already died for Oil, under the guise of Religion?

Sorry sm78, if my words seem at all heated; I am venting a little steam here. I fully respect and honour your posture.

praNAms

mana

satay
13 September 2011, 09:47 AM
namaste singhi,


I believe having the courage to stay away from religion and rather accept the vacuum as an atheist and agnostic is many times better, courageous more human solution than knocking on the doors of world religions.

One can be agnostic and still be a hindu. Agnostic just means you haven't experienced 'that' yet.

sm78
13 September 2011, 10:34 AM
Sorry sm78, if my words seem at all heated; I am venting a little steam here. I fully respect and honour your posture.

praNAms

mana

Not at all heated. Materialism and greed are major problems of 21st century for humanity, but I am not sure they are the biggest or only problem at the moment. Many religions or at least some convinient interpretation of them promote this capitalistic greed.

Why should a non-religious person necessarily need to drift into materialism? Why should there be the need for a book or a prophet to teach one to care for the next door neighbour? All these are basic elements of humanity which some people feel from inside and others need to be reminded often - but does one need religion for that?

sm78
13 September 2011, 10:42 AM
Agnostic just means you haven't experienced 'that' yet.

So are we saying everyone else in this forum have experienced 'that' except poor me? :cool1:

I don't want to appear to conduct a online crusade against faith and belief. It may be necessary for many people - but at the same time one needs to be conscious of the limited possibilities religion, faith and belief offers and also obvious dangers it promotes when they get hard-coded with God's stamp.

How much we would like to believe otherwise, but Hinduism was and is still not free from such blemishes.

NayaSurya
13 September 2011, 11:22 AM
Why should a non-religious person necessarily need to drift into materialism? Why should there be the need for a book or a prophet to teach one to care for the next door neighbour? All these are basic elements of humanity which some people feel from inside and others need to be reminded often - but does one need religion for that?

A nonreligious person has an equal chance of being materialistic as a religious person. We are all water from the same tap.

It seems this is an idea (nonreligious are less moral/more materialistic/more"insert word here") is used all over the world for various reasons...even amongst different religions.

Once I was told that nonxtians were not moral because humans needed the 10 commandments to be moral...and this made me giggle so much.

I told this confused Portion that just because xtians have rules...do they always follow? and isn't it much more amazing that a family without xtianity lives by those rules...and much much more? All without someone standing over us and making sure of it?

Then many years later, when I was in the midst of pagans and told them I was a virgin till marriage. They told me that those things were xtian because only xtians had such rules about chastity. (I also had them claim the modern work ethic is xtian based and therfore not something they followed either)That ones outside of xtianity had freedom.

But freedom of what? Choice?

What about our own inner rules? The things which scream at us when we know we are at the cusp of a wrong decision?


Those, who have no reason other than their own inner compass to guide and correct their path...and yet live wonderfully moral lives...full of honor and goodness...

Those, I feel are just as Blessed...so close to Beloved.

satay
13 September 2011, 01:34 PM
namaste singhi,


So are we saying everyone else in this forum have experienced 'that' except poor me? :cool1:

No, obviously not! Sorry, I intend the word 'you' for you in particular just in general. Probably should've used the word 'one'.

What I meant to say was that one could be agnostic and still stay hindu in the general sense of the word. In fact, you can drop all the rituals etc. and still be, I think. No?



How much we would like to believe otherwise, but Hinduism was and is still not free from such blemishes.

No one said that hinduism is perfect. I don't think any religion can be without blemishes not until 'humans' are practicing it. If robots start practicing religion we might see some perfection. :)

Ganeshprasad
13 September 2011, 04:46 PM
Pranam Satay and all



No one said that hinduism is perfect. I don't think any religion can be without blemishes not until 'humans' are practicing it. If robots start practicing religion we might see some perfection. :)

Now i beg to differ here, if Dharma was not perfect there is no need to follow. Problem as i see it is when we apply dharma with our vasnas it would look like dharam is tainted. that is why i shy away when people want to convert the whole world first perfect your self, that is always the emphasis in Hindu Dharma. all endeavors are tainted with our gunas this what Gita says;

saha-jam karma kaunteya
sa-dosam api na tyajet
sarvarambha hi dosena
dhumenagnir ivavrtah

Every endeavor is covered by some sort of fault, just as fire is covered by smoke. Therefore one should not give up the work which is born of his nature, O son of Kunti, even if such work is full of fault.(18.48)

We can not doubt the purity off water just because it gets muddied.



Jai Shree Krishna

satay
14 September 2011, 10:04 PM
namaste,


We can not doubt the purity off water just because it gets muddied.
Jai Shree Krishna

Agreed. :)

OjasM
15 February 2012, 08:59 AM
Namaste,

Yes I am a former muslim. I do not think my story is very interesting as most would probably just see a confused person. But I was raised in a christian family, though christianity was never really formally practiced. It was simply the adoption of Jesus as the Son of God who died for our sins. It was nothing more than that. When I was a teenager around 14 or so I started reading into christianity mainly from the bible and listening to christian lectures. I explored some of other teachings and learned a bit about Islam. I thought that they were demonized out of error. I started to read the Qur'an and started to view Islamic Monotheism in a better light. I thought maybe this was the 'pure monotheism' that mankind was raised upon. I thought worship of Jesus would not really bring to heaven and that God would want me to worship him directly without an intermediary even if it is claimed to be God's incarnate.

I adopted Islam and followed it strongly for about 7 years. I really did all my five daily prayers, learned a bit of arabic to recite Quran and read prayers. I went to the masjid. I got into a bit of fundamentalism when i read deeper into the religion through the Qur'an and the hadith. I looked for authentic ahadeeth (narrations of the prophet) that were accepted by major scholars. What I pieced together is that many of the Jihadis are right in terms of Jihad being obligatory. Jihad is fard ayn (compulsory) if muslim lands have been occupied and under threat. It is fard kifaya (only compulsory upon a certain amount of muslims when there is a ruler over muslims that is not being harmed by invasion). I learned that the Prophet allowed mutilation in retaliation to mutilations. I learned also that the prophet allowed raiding of merchants (basically businessmen and women who were not warriors). Along with many other ahadeeth I was able to realize that Muhammad allowed and justified killing of the disbelievers after the verses of Jihad came down. At first the verses were defensive and then when the muslims got the upper hand it became part of the religion for offensive jihad. This means that if there is a ruler over the muslims and rules by shariah then that nation needs to either be making jihad to make the name of God uppermost or at least preparing.

So I really found that many jihadees in many parts of the world were right in their jihadi fundamentalism.

After much practice of Islam i found that there was still something that needed to be filled. There was still not satisfaction in the practice of trying to live up to God from Islamic precepts and Aqeedah (creed). I would wander off and read books by Thich Nhat Hanh by this point and feel guilty about it. I felt like I was doing something wrong by learning about mindfulness, Buddha, and meditation. I even began practicing mindfulness meditation and doing mindful activities from the works of Thich Nhat Hanh. What eventually happened is that I started to see the flaws and non-right views of Islam. It was not bringing me happiness. The only thing that caused me to be in it for so long is I thought there were scientific miracles that muslims claim is in the Qur'an. This is really not the case, but I could not help the stupidity I had back then. I eventually started to see that Jihad is awful. That religion from Christianity to Islam has been very primitive. I eventually told my wife who had also converted to Islam how i was feeling. I read my fiqh (jurisprudence) books and marriage books that instructed that it was okay to 'lightly' beat your wife. I shared these with my wife and my doubts and we somehow let go of Islam. Then I continue to learn about mindfulness, meditation, Buddhism, and Sanatana Dharma. Here I am now. Not knowing what to call myself or what beliefs I have. I just find that the Dharma is ringing true and it is something we can actually taste instead of waiting for Paradise on the other side.

Not an exciting story, but I am very grateful that I have left Islam. I sometimes think negatively of those times, but my wife tells me everything happens for a reason.

I am deeply moved by your story and would sincerely pray to god to help you progress