I can relate completely to your experience, Jodhaa. I have a very similar personality. I have personally had no luck with combating my thoughts and tendencies, and I have read from many sources that it is actually not recommended, because it could lead to an even more neurotic state of mind. If you are in combat with your thoughts, who's the attacker and who's the defender? This attitude can only create a further split within yourself. I found it best to accept yourself the way you are first. Everyone has shortcomings, don't beat yourself up over it. I think that the fact that you've become aware of this tendency and turned your attention to it will be enough to get yourself over it. Psychological changes aren't brought about in a day, it's unlikely that you can find a magic pill that will have you wake up tomorrow ready to express all your opinions while remaining in a state of serene detachment. I haven't found one personally and haven't heard of anyone who has. But who knows. The way I understand growth is that it's a gradual process, a child can't force himself to become an adult, it just happens with time and experience. If you feel your meditation practice is leading you in the right direction, then you already know what to do.
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