Re: Hugging
Originally Posted by
Jodhaa
On the flip side, the Tamil woman who invited me to her home recently fully embraced me in what I would call just short of a "bear hug" on only my second meeting with her...and we were at the Temple. I was surprised, not because she was hugging me at temple, but because she was hugging me without knowing me that well. But it was nice too, so I hugged her back.
Another older woman at the temple (in her late 40s maybe?) will reach out her right arm as I approach and put it around me. It's not technically a hug I guess, but I return the gesture when she initiates.
These are generally norms, putting your arms around the shoulder of a friend is something very very common sight on any Indian street, virtually never seen in the west. So they are not the flip side of things as you assume.
And it should not be a surprise since Indian culture still values emotional closeness and dependence much more than west, which regards individuality highly. So people in the west keep their distances, and only physical closeness we see there are of sexual nature.
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