Re: The Shame Capital.....
Namasté,
And while women are controlling their hydration needs, holding tight against passing stools and urine, repressing sexual desires lest they be deemed "bad women" (while their male partners are exonerated from this reputation), avoiding drinking and smoking, staying inside after sunset, dressing and applying makeup per general approval, and being otherwise reminded that they are potential victims and must speak and act accordingly, so that a perceived fall into "loose morals" doesn't open them up to sexual assault and murder -
What should men be doing to not assault them? How can society make that happen, so that women who would like to ride on buses and do some shopping and spend time breathing fresh air outdoors, are not penalized for being mature adult women in the presence of men?
I know that people who give safety advice are trying to stop more crimes from happening; ShivaFan, your many messages here have shown a very loving heart and the best of intentions in the posts you write. But the underlying message, each time a crime like this happens and women are reminded how to protect themselves, is, "Look, you are viewed as prey and are very likely to be assaulted. You need to always keep that in mind, and act accordingly." This attitude of that's-just-how-things-are, better-adapt-to-it, is part of the problem, in my opinion. A quarantine of the victims is a temporary measure against disease, but a better solution is to actively strive for treatment or even cure.
"What was, what is, what will be: I am That." -from BÄá¹£kalamantra Upaniá¹£ad
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