I'd like to comment here that I do agree (mostly) that trying to raise children in two religions is probably not a good idea. Educating them on other cultures and religions, yes, absolutely - but trying to make children reconcile complicated religious differences leads to confusion. We don't have children yet, but we agreed after many conversations that my husband would be responsible for raising the kids Catholic if we ever have any. This was decided for two reasons. 1. At the time, I wasn't Hindu anyway, so it didn't matter to me and 2. The Catholic church makes the Catholic partner promise to raise the children Catholic. (not that they check up on you but it's something that is important to my husband to some degree..the whole, sticking by your word thing)
But even now that I'm Hindu, I don't have a problem with this, as long as he's committed to following through. As a Hindu and as his partner my responsibility (partially) is to help him keep his promise by not trying to muddle things up by taking the kids to temple every other weekend. As long as the kids grow up with healthy, loving temperaments and personalities, they could worship Popsicles if it makes them happy.
We also agreed that if we get to that point (of having kids) and he doesn't feel his faith is strong enough to meet the task, I would raise them Hindu. The point is, one way or another, only ONE religion to start them off. Then they can do the hard work later by trying to figure out what they really believe once their older. We all had to do it, so they don't get any special privileges
There are, of course a dozen other smaller compromises involved in this decision but I'll leave them out because this is already too long
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