i apologize in advance if this is the wrong board to post this query on-

quick question-

how many days after death are newlyweds allowed to go visit the family of the deceased?

when i arrive in India next week- it will be the 15th day after my uncle (father's eldest brother) passed away. my cousin (his son) went back to perform all the last rights properly.

this is first time my wife and i are visiting family in India as a married couple, so after the city my uncle's family lives in, we're also planning on visiting many relatives on her side of the family in another city.

one of my aunts - believes new brides (first year) should not see the face of a widow for 41 days after the passing, that it will bring bad luck into the marriage etc. etc.
another uncle thinks it is bad for me to visit a house where death happened and then visit any other family or home because i will carry bad luck with me.

i can't find any dharma shastra /Caturvagacintāmani online that can clarify anything.

what should i do?

http://thefuneralsource.org/trad0204.html
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_Hin...brate_funerals
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mourning#Hinduism
are not much help.

any guidance or links to primary or authoritative sources appreciated. thanks.