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Namaste Aartee,
If you would not have been already married, I would have suggested you to reconsider the marriage because interfaith marriages are very difficult to make work. It needs a lot of maturity and understanding from both the sides.
Since you are already married, I will suggest you different option. According to Hinduism marriage is a spiritual union. Wife is known as 'Dharma Patni'. I will suggest you to work on it.
If possible, avoid faith discussions for few days. When you both are in good mood, tell him that you dearly love your religion. That offers you ultimate spiritual satisfaction. Tell him very politely that he has right to refuse coming to pujas and yagyas, you can still go to Church to show him your support. However he does not have right to stop your freedom of worship. Tell him that you rever your spirituality as much as he does his own. Tell him that 'he can force you to not attend worship, but your heart is temple of krishna/Shiva/deity, and it will remain irrespective of his pressure. If he will co-operate then your respect for him will multiply, If he will not, then also you will still worship Hindu deities.'
Don't raise your tone but show that you are firm. Also tell him that you respect his individuality and see how it goes.
Plus, as you are now married, please give a thought about your future children. Best option should be do expose them to both the religions and let them make their own decision when they grow up.
Hope that helped you.
Jai Sri Krishna ,
reflections.
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Aartee
God opens doors no man can close, and closes doors no man can open...
Hari Om
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Namaste Aartee
First let me say I do not have your answer. Yet I do notice one thing, that both of you have a common theme, a common focus, that of the Lord. Your spouse may call the Lord by another name, but his Lord is still anuttara, Supreme, as is your Lord.
There is commonality there. Is this not a good place to start the conversation - that of sameness? He chooses to rejoice or worship in one way, and you another. This adoration is still going to sattā, Being, the Supreme, the Lord.
Worship is differernt - Lord is not.
pranams
यतस्त्वं शिवसमोऽसि
yatastvaṁ śivasamo'si
because you are identical with śiva
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Aartee
God opens doors no man can close, and closes doors no man can open...
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Aartee
God opens doors no man can close, and closes doors no man can open...
This may sound a bit harsh, but.... It is never too late to undo a wrong. We have the ability to think freely. I know that there are societal and inner pride challenges, but sometimes...and it seems he is already suggesting it.. divorce may be the best solution. I have witnessed it a few times, and mostly I thought it was for the best. I can think of 3 examples off hand.
One was where the husband was just plain disorganized and lazy yet demanding, as a consequence the children were starving. Wife left with the kids mostly for their sake.
Another was an interacial interfaith marriage. Husband reconnected with his religion (Hindu) after 3 kids, wife wasn't very understanding, so divorce happened by mutual consent. (this one wasn't so ugly as the first.)
The last was a wife who got very religious (not by my definition) but lets say into a yoga guru, and practise.. ridiculous long hours at a time, and hence there was no time for anything else, especially the marriage.
Regardless, best of luck in your choice. Aum Namasivaya
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Aartee
God opens doors no man can close, and closes doors no man can open...
Namaste Aartee.
We had a woman colleague in office who was a Hindu and her husband a Christian. They were classmates in school and the acquaintance developed into marriage. I don't know about the parents of the couple, but the couple themselves are happy together, leading a life of a dual religion, both of them performing the rituals of both the religions, and having images of Hindu gods and Jesus at home.
Unfortunately, such accommodation seems to be not there in your newly wedded life, nor the willingness to accommodate each other religiously. You both stand rigid on your own religion because of personal convictions, and therein lies the problem. I hope you beware that the problems would be much more complicated once you have children.
Does he know that you have signed up here? Why not invite him too? HDF members can help him understand our religion if he is interested in such discussions and joins the Forum, so why not invite him too? Keep praying though, for prayers can be precursors to miracles.
PS: If he is rational about God and religion, I think you can encourage him to read Theosophy, which highlights the Hindu concepts--specially karma and rebirth--in a way that suits the westerners. After he has enough acquaintance with Theosophy, he can turn his attention to the core ancient wisdom it is based on, and this can automatically lead him to know about and understand Hinduism.
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