Greetings,
If the only point is mutual compatibility of partners as U say, what is to be arranged there? What is the difference between free choice and such marriage U describe? And what is the need to "arrange" anything for compatibility to take place?
U seem to be talking of some theoretical ideal which never took place actually. I have many Indian friends and know pretty well what this "wonderful" system is worth of. In normal case of love marriage there are equal probabilities for total and true commitment to each other, same chance for families to share. The difference is that when marriage is free decision of partners, it is a responsible and indeed human act. But while decided by third party, marriage becomes forced and hypocrite game.
This is a popular misconception
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Animal do not fall in love, neither they are able to enjoy as humans do. Animals have sexual instinct aimed at procreation solely. That is why "sex for procreation only" is indeed animalistic view. Sex for pleasure is human level. Sex as an expression of love is Divine.
I do not see how this can minimize sexual promiscuity in any way. I see how this system may encourage homosexualism, which it indeed does. Both in India and muslim countries.
The more restrictions society puts upon sexual sphere, the more perversions and agression develop.
Compatibility of partners necessarily implies sexual compatibility as well. Without certain degree of intimacy one cannot be sure that some person suits him/her. Sexual relationships must come first and then only marriage — when both partners are really sure about their decision.
I in no way promote promiscuity of any kind. But love has to be free from any social considerations. Sex should happen only when love is there, and same true with marriage. When love is lacking, neither sexual relationships nor marriage do any good.
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