Issue resolved
Issue resolved
Last edited by hesh86; 01 January 2012 at 08:50 PM.
Namaste,
Edited - Scroll down to post #10 in this thread.
Pranam.
Last edited by Believer; 01 January 2012 at 05:29 AM. Reason: Troll's Visit
Namaste Hesh,
I agree that this is a difficult situation.
It would be so much better to start your marriage with your parents accepting your bride.
I think that it would be good to ask them (again) what is bothering them about this. If they have a reason to think that something about her would make you unhappy even if she came from the same background that you do, and were the same age, and could bear children, then you really should think about what they have to say. In other words, if they see a basic incompatibility in your two beings, pay attention.
I would also approach a mixed Hindu/Christian marriage with care. I would hope that each of you would have a good understanding of each other's spirituality and what it means to the other person. How would the two of you raise your children? If your children learn anything but the most superficial understanding of Christianity they will be terrified that you will be tortured in hell forever. And the Christian bible is very clear that no deities are to be worshipped except for the one in the bible, so if your wife thinks very hard about this she might fear for her own salvation if she finds herself on any sort of Hindu path. Or she might be wanting to convert you and not even realize that yet herself.
This is not to say "Don't do it!" to the two of you. Just think hard about what you are getting into, and know how to support each other through it.
And if you know each other and love each other after 11 months and want to marry, that's a good sign for the two of you. (11 months gives you a chance to know each other a bit, and hopefully a chance for each of you to see how the other one deals with difficulties/disappointments, etc.) If the two of you would have a happy marriage, it won't hurt you to wait a bit while you work out how to deal with the mixed religion aspect (although maybe you've already thoroughly discussed it), and give your parents a bit more of a chance to accept her, and accept your marriage. Then, after that, if they still don't accept her, and you still want to marry each other, you either marry and take the chance that they will never accept her, or you see that you don't want to give up your family for the marriage. Time will help you.
Best wishes to both of you!
Namaste,
11 months of dating.
Even Christians do not get married in 11 years so both of you comes from different religion.
year 25 old, is too early to get marry to different culture.
Namaskar,
AmIHindu ?
यज्ञानां जपयज्ञोऽस्मि ।
नाम्नोऽस्ति यावती शक्तिः पापनिर्हरणे हरेः । श्र्वपचोऽपि नरः कतुँ क्षमस्तावन्नकिल्विषम् ।।
Vannakkam hesh86: I hesitate to say much at all given the real lack of details. For example, you didn't mention what exact type of Christian she is. I'm pretty much assuming she's pretty liberal or non-practising or she probably wouldn't be in this situation.
My wife and I got married very young. I was 21, she was 20, but that was in a different era. Like you, we didn't have the blessings of one set of parents, but that did change.
My suggestion is to go to some older friends, or married friends in real life, not on-line people like us, and ask for some honest opinions. After all, HDF isn't a counselling site.
Best wishes regardless of what you decide.
Aum Namasivaya
Last edited by Eastern Mind; 30 December 2011 at 06:30 PM.
Namast,
Issues in inter-faith marriage were discussed on the forum about a year ago. The thread is here and might provide a few ideas for you, maybe?
I agree that now is the time for discussion with your parents, to simply try your best in the situation, listening carefully and answering their concerns however you can. It's an unusual situation that's hard to judge from the outside, and we - and maybe they - are missing some facts that are pretty important. How does your wife-to-be reconcile her Christian beliefs with a Hindu marriage ceremony, based upon Vedic scripture and not her own? Have the two of you had charts done to determine your astrological compatibility? By what faith will your children be raised (if you do choose to adopt or have by surrogate)? These are just a few questions I can think of from a single reading; your family may have many more.
Good luck. The others who answered in this thread have given you some excellent, wise advice.
Indraneela
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Oṁ Indrāya Namaḥ.
Oṁ Namaḥ Śivāya.
As I mention in a later post, the issue of marriage has been resolved amicably. The details are still up in the air.
As for the allegations in the post below, I did not come here to be judged, I came for help. If God can't forgive me, I have no interest in moksha or his kingdom or this 'self-realisation'. I have changed in the last few months and have realized that I have not done anything wrong, because nobody was hurt. I could be misled, but the comment below is sadly distorted and misrepresents facts, people can go and view the entire post to know what I really said. I truly did have a doubt whether what I was doing was wrong. Every sinner has a future and every saint has a past, in my opinion.
I am not perfect and I realize this.
Last edited by hesh86; 06 February 2012 at 12:14 AM. Reason: Edited unnecessary slanderous comments made earlier.
Namaste,
Let us look at the chronology of your posts,
So, you have read a ton of scriptures in the last 5+ years, have regularly attended satsangs, but haven't learnt anything about what is acceptable and what is not; as you ask us if it is wrong to be intimate with your friend before marriage.
Now you come back for advice about a glitch in your proposed marriage.
Folks, we have a troll who is taking us for a ride!
Pranam.
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